I don’t know if this will help, but I’ve spent more hours than I’d like to admit staring at spreadsheets where I’ve meticulously listed every pro and con of a decision. I used different colors for "impact" and "probability." I assigned numerical values to my feelings. I thought that if I could just make the logic "crunchy" enough, the choice would become obvious.

It’s a bit strange, but have you ever noticed that even when the "Pros" list for Option A is twice as long as Option B, you still find yourself leaning toward B? And then you feel guilty about it? Or you feel even more stuck because now your brain says one thing, but your gut says something else, and they aren't even speaking the same language anymore.

Logic is a wonderful tool for organizing your thoughts. But it’s a terrible tool for understanding your heart.

We like to pretend we are rational creatures making logical choices. We say things like, "Well, the salary is better here," or "This apartment is closer to the train." But those are often just the excuses we give to justify a choice that we’ve already made emotionally—or to suppress a choice we’re too scared to make.

When we compare Option A and Option B, we usually only compare the "outcomes." We compare the results. We ask: "Which one will make me more money?" or "Which one looks better on paper?" But we rarely ask: "Who do I become if I choose this?" or "What part of me has to be silenced for this to work?"

This is where things get a little uncomfortable. Sometimes, we choose Option A because it feels "safe," even though it bores us to tears. Sometimes we choose Option B because we’re addicted to the drama of a struggle, even though it’s hurting us. Overanalyzing is often just a sophisticated way of avoiding the truth that neither option is perfect, and we’re going to have to grieve whichever one we leave behind.

I’m not here to tell you to stop being logical. But I am here to tell you that logic has its limits. It can tell you the "what," but it can't tell you the "why."

So, how do we use Tarot for this? We use it to bypass the "spreadsheet brain." We use a simple Option A vs Option B Spread. It’s not meant to tell you which one is "better." It’s meant to show you the texture of each path.

I’ve done this spread for myself many times. Once, I was choosing between two projects. Project A was lucrative and prestigious (The King of Pentacles on the surface). Project B was small and unknown (The Page of Wands on the surface). My spreadsheet said: Choose A. Obviously.

But when I pulled the "Hidden Undercurrent" cards, Project A showed the Eight of Swords—meaning that for all that money, I’d feel trapped and mentally paralyzed. Project B showed the Sun—meaning it would bring me joy and clarity even if the "payout" was smaller.

Tarot didn't "decide" for me. It just held up a mirror and said, "Hey, look at how much you value your freedom. Are you sure you want to sell it for that King of Pentacles paycheck?"

The choice was still mine. But the choice was no longer a lie.

I don’t know if this will help, but the next time you feel stuck between two choices, try to stop comparing the *things* and start comparing the *feelings*. If you choose Option A, how do you breathe? If you choose Option B, how do you sleep?

It’s a bit revealing when the cards show you that the "perfect" choice on your spreadsheet is actually a recipe for burnout. It’s even more revealing when the "scary" choice is the one that actually makes your heart beat with excitement instead of dread.

We are complicated, messy humans. We aren't meant to be "optimized" like software. We are meant to be lived in. So, let the Tarot show you the parts of the choice that aren't on your list. Let it show you the "maybe" and the "what if."

And remember: choosing one path doesn't mean the other path was "wrong." It just means it wasn't for this version of you, in this moment.

(Sometimes the most 'logical' choice is the one
that actually allows you to feel like yourself.)

Perspective

External references open in a new tab.

• APA — Stress & decision-making
• Psychology Today — Decision making basics

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